tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-181953727519479153.post8656043033966530498..comments2023-12-16T15:22:38.108-06:00Comments on mothermade: #TBTmothermadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15805762605100898914noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-181953727519479153.post-11948188775444609302014-07-19T22:48:25.809-05:002014-07-19T22:48:25.809-05:00Thanks Kathy, for reading. I wish I could tell you...Thanks Kathy, for reading. I wish I could tell you more, but as you acknowledge here, every adoptee is different as every story is. <br /><br />My situation sounds very much like your granddaughter's as I was the oldest, and my little sister (my parents’ biological child) came six years later. Our relationship has always been as close as could be expected. My sister is my sister. She understands my struggles in not seeing that biological likeness. My family is very sensitive to that, and I appreciate it. Their support in my search speaks volumes.<br /><br />Support her and love her as you do the new grandbaby. When comments are made, acknowledge her place in the family and find out how she feels. Dialogue goes a very long way. <br /><br />I am not an expert in any of this, but I have lived my life as an adoptee and my thoughts here and on Lost Daughters are offered to help others understand some of the inner conflicts adoptees have. Thanks again for reading!mothermadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15805762605100898914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-181953727519479153.post-59978014621970974152014-07-18T12:10:18.632-05:002014-07-18T12:10:18.632-05:00I want to thank you for your comment about hitting...I want to thank you for your comment about hitting the delete key in commenting on family resemblances when there is an adopted child in the family. I did the same thing a couple of days ago.<br /><br />Our oldest son and his wife (domestically) adopted a child of mixed (father unknown, possibly Hispanic) race three years ago. On Wednesday, our daughter-in-law gave birth to their second child. Of course, iPhones in hand, pictures of the new baby quickly made their way to family members in far flung places. One of the pictures struck me as bearing a strong resemblance to one of our daughter-in-law's younger sisters. I started to make a comment to that effect, then, remembering your statement above, I quickly deleted it. Later, a family member posted a comment about the baby's facial expression being a "Grandma" (with specific reference to my mother, the baby's great-grandmother) face.<br /><br />Your blog, and the blog posts at "Lost Daughters" (both of which I've only recently become aware of) have made me wonder how granddaughter #1, who has been the "apple of her parents' eyes," is going to react to this new, obviously different, obviously more like her cousins in appearance, little sister.<br /><br />They live 700 miles from us, so I don't see them often, but I really want to know how to best relate to these two precious children in the healthiest way possible (for both of them), especially as they grow older.<br /><br />I know every child, every family, and every situation, is different, but I would really appreciate any insights you could give me in doing everything I can to make granddaughter #1 feel as special as she is, and to ease her "adoption tensions" (if that phrase even makes sense).<br /><br />Thanks!<br /><br />Kathy<br /><br />http://thoughtsondailyliving.blogspot.com/Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07361872687544481018noreply@blogger.com